Coaching Calls 2024
We're so excited to get this year's Jade Egg Mastery LIVE calls!
We will be using the SAME link each week to access the Zoom room.
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/89859476440
All calls at 9:00AM Pacific
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CALL 1 - SATURDAY - OCTOBER 5TH
CALL 2 - SATURDAY - OCTOBER 12TH
CALL 3 - SATURDAY - OCTOBER 19TH
CALL 4 - SATURDAY - OCTOBER 26TH
CALL 5 - SATURDAY - NOVEMBER 2ND
CALL 6 - SATURDAY - NOVEMBER 9TH
CALL 7 (BONUS!) - SATURDAY - NOVEMBER 16TH
Replays
Click the image above to watch Call #1 video
October 5: LIVE COACHING CALL #1
Welcome to the Jade Egg Mastery LIVE Replay! 🌸 In this powerful session, you'll be guided through a deep exploration of your body and heart, reconnecting with your inner wisdom and sensual aliveness. Dr. Saida Désilets creates a sacred space to invite your unique journey into "unprecedented pleasure," offering guidance on how to nurture your body and soul at your own pace. Whether you're new or returning, this call lays the foundation for the transformative months ahead. Saida also shares special invitations to bonus trainings, including practices for addressing numbness and pain and integrating your solo practice into partnership. Tune in to rediscover your joy, set your intentions, and embrace the magic of self-devotion! ✨
October 12: LIVE COACHING CALL #2
In this session, we explore how to turn knowledge into embodied wisdom, making the practices your own and gently welcoming more pleasure into your life. Through movement, breath, and subtle body awareness, you’ll learn to release tension, increase sensitivity, and create more space for joy.
We also redefine orgasm and pleasure in a way that aligns with your unique body, helping you feel more connected, safe, and seen. With practical tools and self-reflection, this session invites you to claim more space in your body and life, starting with small, nourishing practices.✨
October 19: LIVE COACHING CALL #3
In this session, I dive deeper into your journey with Jade Egg Mastery, focusing on self-care, pleasure, and consistency. I encourage you to take a compassionate approach to your practice, reminding you that your path isn’t linear and every small step is a win. Through the Jade Egg practice, you’ll awaken your body and embrace a pleasure mindset that enhances all areas of your life. I also talk about the importance of breath, community, and celebrating your progress. Plus, you'll learn new insights to deepen your connection to pleasure, both in solo and partnered practices..✨
October 26: LIVE COACHING CALL #4
In this session, we dive deeper into your journey with Jade Egg Mastery, focusing on self-care, pleasure, and consistency. I encourage you to take a compassionate approach to your practice, reminding you that your path isn’t linear and every small step is a win. Through the Jade Egg practice, you’ll awaken your body and embrace a pleasure mindset that enhances all areas of your life. I also talk about the importance of breath, community, and celebrating your progress. Plus, you'll learn new insights to deepen your connection to pleasure, both in solo and partnered practices. ✨
Click the image above to watch Call #5 video
November 2: LIVE COACHING CALL #5
In this session, we explored week four’s focus on deep pelvic activation, grounding themselves through relaxation and centering techniques. Each shared their current emotional state, tuning into a unique mix of feelings within the group. Moving through exercises engaging the pelvic area—such as mindful breathing, gentle rocking, and shoulder movements—they connected with the subtleties of their bodies. Dr. Saida introduced the CUV complex (clitoris, urethral sponge, and vagina) and emphasized the effectiveness of gentle, steady pressure over vibration for heightened sensitivity. Participants also gained insights into the benefits of pausing, the importance of pelvic floor tone, suppleness, and dexterity, and addressed practical aspects like lubrication and egg removal. It was a time for each to tune deeply into their own body’s rhythm and response. ✨
Click the image above to watch Call #6 video
November 2: LIVE COACHING CALL #5
What are erotic edges?
What actually turns you on?
And so much more!
Click the image above to watch Call #7 video
November 2: LIVE COACHING CALL #5
Coaching Call ARCHIVES
Each year has had a difference emphasis. It's interesting to see how the practice and course has evolved since we started the LIVE Coaching Calls in 2016.
Click here and enjoy the journey from 2016.
Click here and enjoy the journey going from 2017 to 2022.
Comments
Hello 👋 does anyone know where I can find the replay of the second call with Saïda and Michael? I would love to shows some parts of this call to my partner and talk with him about it. Thank you and happy New Year 🎊
My team will be in touch as it should be in the resource area.
#7 live was my favorite! Thank you so much, Saida. All of the sharing today was helpful. HAPPY to hear that you are going to have a different venue than Facebook for group shares. Sign me up 😉 Love the idea of being a pleasure amplifier. I choose to release dehydration and embrace drinking more water (and getting my essential oil diffusers going now that the air is dry from heaters). The tip about sugar collapsing energy makes so much sense. I do a lot of energy work and sometimes feel too expanded. Better to ground and breathe rather than eat chocolate. Consciously choosing my dominant felt state is critical, esp. as I live with someone with scrambled energy/brain trauma. I choose to feel calm and kind. The mantra “I acknowledge that my current situation has an end point even if I can’t currently see it.” from Lisa’s book on neurosculpting stabilizes me when spinning out as well as “Self-pity is just a limiting choice from the infinite number of choices I have in this moment.” And so it is. My favorite practice is the shaking/bouncing/hip circles/rub groin and sacrum/smile into kidneys/pelvic thrusts/ovarian breathing/breast massage. Feel fantastic afterward; refreshed, enlivened, open, soft and feminine. Can’t wait to do the belly dancing in gourmet bonus as well. Much love and hugs.
Oooh! This is an awesome ‘takeaway’ post!! LOVE IT!!!
“In our culture, orgasm is often viewed as a peak experience—fireworks, if you will. But I want
to invite you into the possibility of a different kind of orgasm, one that is slow, deep, and
constant, like a deep ocean wave that takes 30 years to cross. This wave lives inside you,
always present and affecting everything.”
Today, I went back to search for this in the first call because the image has been living inside of me. Such beautiful words.
I had an interesting experience today at a network chiro appointment. With every gentle touch, waves of pleasure felt unlocked. By the end, he could barely touch me without sensation rippling through my body. I walked in with tension/pain in my pelvis after much ‘doing’ the last couple days and I left pain free with a new understanding of the ‘magic’ happening in the stillness.
With every in breath there needs to be an out breath. My body knows. The slow deep wave IS there all the time. The yoni pulsing and saying LIVE! At the beginging of starting these practices, sometimes there would be months inbetween. I would notice a deadness and then practice would remind me to listen to the pulse of my aliveness. Its exciting to me that the time of not paying attention has become almost intolerable to me.
Today, was something new. The sensation of tension and then tension leaving felt like new information of holding patterns and surrender. It feels like its part of the felt state check in and what i’m choosing. Am I choosing to acknowledge the existence of this deep ocean wave? Its available to me in every moment and it’s there to be tapped into.
I don’t really identify with a lot of the definitions of orgasm. I like self referencing my experience and leaning into the possibility that is offered here. The sensation and the existence of this deep wave makes me exclaim to myself daily…”I fucking love being alive!”
Very grateful.
Yummmmm!!! I love that this quote has inspired you Lesley! And YES to your experience!! THIS IS so at the root of how I live and why I created this entire body of work. 🙂
Thanks, Leslie. You have been here for me and I appreciate you so much.
I loved the suggestions on the #5 live. My breasts give me lots of pleasure, but I haven’t always loved them well due to judging stretch marks and shy nipples. I lit candles and put on dreamy music and imagined a sweet love from the past worshipping my breasts with love and attention. Oil, massage, praise, rose petals and sweeping in a large smile from nipple to clit to nipple which felt so amazing. Then, he continued by massaging my inner thighs and vulva, the outside of my yoni, perineum and anus. He entered my yoni slowly with a finger and caressed my gspot which began to vibrate and then tenderly caressed the cervix and neck which kissed his finger. I felt the most amazing rush of bubbles from pelvis to heart and awakened from my reverie feeling so alive. You really can think or imagine an orgasm. And heal old wounds with loving presence. I got Lisa W’s book on neurosculpting and am savoring it, too.
WOW! AMAZING SHARE!!!!
So beautiful and inspiring! Thank you and I see you.
A few days ago I had just finished my feminine practices and my sister who lives with me repeated a behavior that feels disrespectful to me and creates a pull on my physical energy and time. The words flowing from my mouth and throat amazed me. “I am a queen, not a servant girl or maid. My energy and time are valuable. Although we have spoken about this before, you did not cooperate and keep your agreement with me. I release this situation to divine source trusting I am loved and supported. I am not a victim or an aggressor lashing out. Neither am I a savior. I see you as a queen. You are not confused, or sick or helpless. You are a powerful being and have choice. I relinquish care giving as I now discern this is not the path for me.” And so forth it flowed for about 20 minutes. I acknowledged my inner child was feeling rage at being burdened with this particular responsibility again. (Something I learned from Dr. Sarno’s book about the true causes of pain). Just acknowledging my true feelings as well as shaking and breathing out with the Ssssssss (liver) sound calmed and soothed me. So grateful for these skills, including redefining my reality and writing a new story filled with aliveness and pleasure.
WOW!!!!!!
I see you and am inspired!
Hi, I’m sorry if I’m leaving the comment in the wrong part. It’s about today’s class with Dr Michael and see if there are any suggestions.
As soon as the call started and we got into our bodies, I started yawning and it lasted most of the class. This is nothing new to me. When I meditate, when I have a session with my therapist, when I get intimate with my husband, sometimes when I exercise, the same thing happens. I cannot stop yawning and the tears running down my eyes/cheeks from it (not feeling sadness, just tears from the act of yawning). I don’t know if my body is going into freeze and it’s a way of keeping me out of it? Or something else.
Thanks for you insight,
Maria
This is a great place for this comment Maria 🙂 Yawning is the body’s way to get more oxygen and ‘wake you up’. I’m curious if you can start listening to your body and noticing what’s happening in those different moments: Are you present? Dissociated? Relaxed? Stressed? Bored? I also know many people who ‘learn to burp’ all the time throughout a meditation because their teacher had that habit, so yawning could also be a habitual response. Let me know your discoveries!
Hi, I wasn’t able to come to the live call, today. Is the replay for today available?
It should be available shortly. 🙂
Hi,
I just started this program after the webinar last Saturday. These live calls show dates in March. I know the first live call is on October 5th at 10 am? Could you please change the dates is the new dates? Where are the live calls? Here on this platform or on Facebook?
Thank you.
Kind regards,
Regina
Hi,
I’m just curious, in the past the coaching calls from the past live JEM’s were available to re-watch but now they seem to no longer be here. Are they kept somewhere else or have they been removed?
Blessings, Kimberly
Hi Kimberly, as far as I know, they should all be there if you were part of the LIVE before. I will pass this onto the tech team to see if they can help. Thank you for letting us know!
Hi Saida,
Thank you for your reply! All I can find are the re-plays from the most recent JEM, none of the previous ones seem to be there. This past JEM was my second and I know in the past that I had seen previous years sessions, because I went back to rewatch some of the first JEM I participated in and was looking forward to going even further back for more juicy content. I may be looking in the wrong place, but I thought it would be under the live coaching calls tab. Just thought I would check in case I was missing something!
Blessings, Kimberly from KY
My team is on it, hopefully this is resolved soon 🙂
Really appreciating the shares from week 6. Just a comment on sounds – I went on a kayaking tour weekend recently and the food was AMAZING and I couldn’t help myself audibly appreciating it – every bite was like “mmmm! Mmmm! Oh my god…Mmmm!!” It made the group laugh a lot :-). There was no shame/shaming, just a lovely shared experience
Oooh! Love this!!!
Also, meant to say, I think the cause of the vaginismus is significant stress. I’ve had an increase in migraines (one lasted 3 days recently) around my period, and my period has shortened by a day. So there are hormonal changes going on also.
Yes, hormonal changes can have many symptoms. AND, hormones are very responsive to our lifestyle and felt-states.
I’m curious about the 2 supplements mentioned – pregnenolone and DHEA cubes. I have had vaginismus on and off for 15 years, initially brought on by genital herpes and sexual trauma. The first time, I didn’t have any sexual contact for 2 years afterwards, then I had a relationship with someone who wasn’t that bothered by penetration, so I was always super horny by the time we actually got to penetration, if we even got there at all. The second time it came on, maybe 6 years ago, I was in a relationship with a guy 17 years my senior (interestingly, so was the first guy it happened with!). He had a very high sex drive and all touch led to sex. There was very little sensuality. I only had a 6 month break before getting into another relationship, which ended 3 months ago. In this last relationship (3.5 years) vaginismus was present on and off the whole time. It was almost continous for the last maybe 6-9 months. Now my vagina feels very dry most of the time, and even when it isn’t, if I’m able to insert a finger without pain, taking it out is painful – it feels like ripping a plaster off the inside of my vagina. I’m wondering if the supplements are only for perimenopausal women, or whether they would help in this case?
Oh, that’s a beautiful invitation to discover what your yoni needs to feel safe. Yes, there is a physical factor, so the DHEA cubes will really help. And two, what can be shifted so that your yoni relaxed and softens?
Good morning ladies!
I just wanted to say what a lovely call we had yesterday (03/26/22), it left me in tears. While being a woman of deep faith has helped me to avoid many of the pitfalls of modern life, I have found that even I have been affected by the idolizing of youth. For whatever reason the Divine has not opened the door of relationship for me, I’ve never even been on a date, and as I approach my 48th year and am in perimenopause I have felt a deep sadness and loss of hope for ever finding love or relationship with another. My fear has been that I would lose even the desire for intimacy. Developing a deeper, more intimate relationship with myself is wonderful and is opening doors of healing, however, it still isn’t the same as being intimate with another. Hearing Cora’s story and Saida’s relating of another woman’s story has offered so much hope that despite what our current culture says, I’m not ready for the spinster shelf just yet! Thank you for sharing your own stories, “I see each one of You!”
Blessings, Kimberly from KY
Wow Kimberly! Such a profound share. You are very clear on your ‘current situation’. I would invite you to spend time dreaming into what is POSSIBLE, what you would LOVE! It’s never too late 🙂
Hi Saida,
A couple of questions:
1. Is that the book you recommended during the call?
Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers: https://www.amazon.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-Extraordinary-Lovers-ebook/dp/B085RJDQ8K/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
2. Which brand of non estrogen dhea cubes would you recommend?
3. I’ve heard you talk about changing/dissolving growths and imbalances with the JE practice and somatic awareness + processing related emotions. I have a non-cancerous tissue change in the cervix. Is it safe to proceed with the egg? Any recommendations?
Thank you so much in advance!
Milena
Yes Milena, that’s the book. Dhea cubes are the NON-estrogen ones from Bezwecken. Yes, as far as I know, it’s safe. Just use awareness and go easily. Anything that increases circulation helps to heal the tissue. And, you can still get great benefit without the egg.
Hi Saida,
Thank you so much for the follow up!
I apologize for the delay following up, my husband got covid last week, so our week has been chaotic figuring how to handle the situation and how I can stay safe around him…
I love the book. I got it last week :). Thank you for sharing.
As for pronegnalone, is there a particular brand and amount you suggest?
Have been going through a lot last two years – my dad died from covid and other experiences…
Thank you in advance and regards,
Milena
I’m so sorry for your loss. And am happy you are enjoying the book. Prenegnolone must be a high quality, but the brand changes country to country.
Thank you, Saida!!
Love,
Milena
Aaagh, I have now managed to miss both call 3 and call 4 because of work. I am so sorry not to be there but look forward to listening to the recording.x
No worries Jane!
What to thanks so much Sara and Terry for sharing part of your story, part of who your are and this safe and sacred space where women hold each other❤️ Thank you so much to you Saida for creating that space and for receiving each and every one of us ❤️ For your wisdom you are sharing cause you did the work 🦋 I was touched by your share it touched something inside me that I need to look at and needs softness and love from me! It’s amazing to réalise at each call how my body my soul my yoni is more and more alive aware in tune with myself through your share your experiences your words ! I see you and hear you !
Hi Saida and fellow Sisters on this path! Here’s my question: I enjoy self pleasuring and touching myself but I can only seem to get aroused and reach orgasm if I am thinking of a man, and at this stage in my life I don’t want to do that. I’m trying to move to thinking of an anonymous hunk instead of an actual man from my past but can I be aroused thinking of NO MAN?, That’s where I struggle. Would love some help or in the life call if easier to discuss there… Thank you so much
Fazila, yes, it is possible to self-pleasure without fantasizing about man or any fantasy at all (although they can add an element of Eros). Have you enjoyed simply following your own pleasure and allowed all your attention to be on the sensations that arise?
I am going to try this. Extremely helpful as was your comment to Sian below – its about my self-generated pleasure and inherent bliss….I will find this – I feel like its a life long practice but how EMPOWERING. Thank you Saida!!!
My pleasure!
Loving the replay and the shares so far. Previously I have taken this course with the sense that unless I want sexual contact and penetration, I am somehow not “alive”. My biggest takeaway is that lens is no longer there. I feel very alive at the moment, in the rawness of deep sadness, grief and loneliness. Eros is there whatever our state.
I discovered a new understanding of love from deep within my being, after a family constellations workshop recently, which was that love is “allowing someone or something (e.g. emotions) the space to exist, exactly as they are, moment to moment”. Loving myself means allowing all of me to exist exactly as I am, moment to moment, with a sense of spaciousness around that.
Second takeaway is the comparison thing – I have spent far too much time on social media in recent months, and have been massively comparing my life to others. So I celebrate the fullness of others lives.
Oh wow! This is a fantastic share Sian!
Oh my gosh, more revelations! I had an amazing experience 2 nights ago at a full moon sweat lodge. This guy that I previously mentioned I have been hanging out with but nothing sexual has happened yet (and maybe it won’t) was there. We ended up lying naked next to eachother in the sweat lodge (once most people had got out), me with my hand on his chest and him just holding my hand. It felt totally erotic – I felt alive in every cell of my being and have done since. I realised this morning that I can feel that aliveness far more throughout my whole body when the touch isn’t sexual. When it becomes sexual the sensations and energy become very localised and far less expansive.
What I’m worried about is that I now haven’t stopped thinking about that moment for 2 days! I am thinking back to past relationships and how this obsessiveness has led to self-abandonment. On the outside I don’t look obsessive, but my thoughts do become very focused on the other. In the beginning it might feel like aliveness, but at some point becomes about what I think they should or shouldn’t be doing, what I think they need etc. How can we stay in and enjoy this aliveness without it becoming about the other? Is it ok to keep thinking about the “moment” to ignite that aliveness in me?
Hi Sian, great experience and beautiful question! First, allow full enjoyment and affirm ‘more of that please!’. This doesn’t mean necessarily MORE with the same person, etc, it means that the FELT-STATE achieved in that life experience is something you would LOVE more of 🙂 Then, understand that it had little to do with that person, that all sensations experienced were indeed self-generated. As much as ‘he was part of the experience’, he did not and could not and never will be able to ‘make you feel that way again’. It’s when we open our hearts, when we open our minds and when we open our bodies that we start to allow ourselves to feel our own inherent bliss. What do you think the answer is to your last question as it is one about permission… do you need anyone’s approval or permission to create your life?
Hmm yes, I guess it is absolutely ok! AND important to stay with what you said which is to remember that he himself is not the cause, I don’t need to rely on him or convince myself that I NEED him.
I’m just listening to week 2 recording. I LOVE LOVE LOVE that I get to enjoy feeling aroused without believing I must do something about it. Its so empowering. I learnt this the very first time I did the jade egg course, and I’ve been so happy to have learnt that lesson, particularly in recent times. I have been single for 3 months and had almost no libido these past 2 years, but I can feel my arousal coming back. I have been spending time with a new guy, just as a friend, and sometimes feel turned on when I’m around him. I really feel I am owning that turn on in a way I never have – I actually don’t want a relationship with him, or even a fling, and feel no sense that I must do something about it, except to really enjoy it! I don’t need to share it with him in any way, verbally or otherwise, but can just quietly smile to myself and breathe it in.
Ooooh! Yessss! That is soooo fantastic!!! 🙂
Hi Saida 🥰🦋 just listen to the first live and I wanted to know if you can write in the chat the name of the artist singing, really loved it 🥰 thank you ! I thank you to all the women for your share in the video ! I see you
I’m not sure which song, but I did play one of Mayra Stark’s songs: https://youtu.be/hoIDwzG2AwA
Hello beautiful ladies 🦋🥰 what I am bringing with me in this group, is my compassion, my love and respect, my sensitivity and my deep connection… what I want out of the jade egg mastery is to open, to surrender, to bloom, to soften, to emerge like this picture🥰and to finally heal those wounds and trauma that I have experience in the past ! # #dedication I will to the practice with dedication and love for myself, I will go as fast has the slowest part of me, I will release control and surrender to the flow of love that will heal me, I will honour my desires and treat them with love and respect❤️🥰 I am very grateful to be part of this beautiful group with all of you 🥰
Bonjour Loup! Welcome and may your journey be gentle.
Thank you 🥰
Hai Saida. Is the live meeting from yesterday, being recorded so i can watch this?
Yes. The replay will be up later today, once my team is awake 😉
Kimberly from KY
July 1, 2020 @ 6:23 PM CST
Homeplay from Welcome Video:
Hi all,
First off, a bit of an introduction: I’m a passionately curious, introverted, old soul in my mid-forties. I’ve never been married or in a relationship so part of taking this course is to explore in a more embodied way a part of myself that I’ve not been very familiar with, aside from a bit of tension relief from time to time.
After watching the welcome video and spending a little bit of time contemplating the questions, I’ve come up with the following thoughts…
I am bringing my curiosity to the group and my desire to learn more about myself. I have had to spend years working from my more masculine side and what I hope to get out of this group is learning how to connect to my deeper feminine side and learn how to let her come out and play!
My fears: I’m afraid that I might not be able to feel deep pleasure. Afraid that time and life has passed me by and that the best parts of myself are gone. I’m also afraid that I’ve buried my sensual side so deep I won’t be able to find her and learn to dance with her in a way that is “safe” for me.
My doubts: That at the end of this I won’t know myself any better than I do now and that I will continue to have difficulty living in an embodied way.
I dedicate this journey or practice to: Finding the “quiet bohemian” girl that is hiding deep inside of me and learning how to live a more whole-istic, joyous life of freedom and love for myself and those around me.
Blessings, Kimberly
Beautifully stated! Thank you for your revealed honesty.
Listening to the week 4 call. I’m feeling grateful today. My journey is daring and enlivened
Yes!!!
I sent an email to support over 2 weeks ago that received no response. I also sent a message yesterday asking about the live call from Saturday the 20th as it’s not posted yet. It’s been 3 days. Is there a faster way to load the live call if we can’t make it live? The course is wonderful but also frustrating as my questions were not responded to. I get you have a lot going on. But to feel more held in this space, it would be nice to be listened to in a timely way. Thank you.
Hi Katrina, I’m not sure why you are not being helped as Maya is usually quick to answer. Have you been helped now? I was traveling so unable to log into this site. Do you have content questions?
Thank you for response. Just a suggestion, but if you had sent out an email eliminating the confusion about 1st call being a bonus and not included in the weekly live lounge, that would have saved a lot of confusion. Perhaps you can change that for future calls as it was highly frustrating!!! I appreciate your response. While I haven’t been able to join the live calls due to work scheduling, I am all caught up and engaged in the practices. I just thought i’d chime in to add my words for week 2 practices. The word(s) that came were “calm curiosity.” The price I pay in “cheap” feminine power is isolation, and lack of feeling valued and recognized for my real capacities. Which ultimately leaves men disempowered and generates more adversarial and tense relations where neither person feels valued or respected. I feel this time for me is really about deepening what I already know. I am not new to jade egg practice and have had a life long inquiry on many levels to this kind of work. And, I love how you teach it as I am learning more about nuance, not knowing, and curious discovery without a plan. That’s all. Thank you. So grateful to be here. I also won’t be able to be on the live call this Saturday. It’s a hard time for me but appreciate all that has been learned and shared very much.
Hi Katrina, thank you so much for your feedback, I’ll pass it on to the team. I don’t think we’ll change it NOW… because it’s set in motion, but good for future considerations!! If you have ANY questions for me for this week’s LIVE call, please do let me know.
Hi Katrina, I’m sorry you felt frustrated. That’s understandable. But I can’t find any emails from you. Can you please email me at care@saidadesilets.com so we can troubleshoot? We definitely care about supporting you!
One of the videos refers to this pdf called: Definitions vs. reality pdf? Anyone know where to find it?
I think, Leslie, it’s in the downloads as part of the PDFs created. Please check both week 1 & 2 for PDF downloads.
Hello! I am so excited to be here! Unfortunately, due to the time change I will not be able to join the live calls. I am deeply saddened by this as it was one of my main reasons for joining. I will look forward to the replays.
Thank you so much
Rachel
Oh Rachel!! That SUCKS!! You will be part of it if you contribute comments and/or questions prior to each call. I’ll mention you and your thoughts 🙂
Hi Saida,
I will not be attending the live calls due to the time difference and will be watching the replays.
Thank you so much for an amazing first call. I felt so deeply moved during the call as hat you shared deeply resonated with me.
I dedicate this journey to slowing down and reclaiming my aliveness, femininity and sensuality.
I am truly grateful for this journey with you and the other ladies and am excited at the possibilities, I am not alone. I belong to life.
Yes!!! You are most definitely NOT alone!! Feel free to leave me any questions to address on any of the future calls.
Yes yes😻 Thanks a lot:)
In the previous question about the honey dipper I said sixth call but it was the sixth…
I believe I answered this question (with a link) twice, once on this forum and once in the JEM FB group 🙂
Sorry in the fifth call…
??? What are you asking Paola?
What is the honey deeper (I don t know if the spelling is correct) you are mentioning in the sixth call and where can I find it ?:) tksssss
Here’s the link to Amazon: HONEY DIPPER
I was on the first call and it was so powerful! I was truly inspired and wrote lots of notes…..and now here it is week 2 and I did not get my homework done as I had planned and intended….. So instead of beating myself up….I will start right where I am…..
Literally, right now in the bath tub soaking in nurturing self care! (If anyone saw the fist call…I am the one in my hot tub! LOL! I try to take as many baths or be in my hot tub as much as possible because it is so nurturing for me……but I truly want to go further in my self care with The JEM practices!)
Homework Week 1 Call:
Yoni Journal – have one picked out and will begin it tonight 5/14/18
Re-watch welcome video tonight 5/14/18
*** I love what Saida E. Desilets talked about the word “discipline”……saying I “dedicate” or “devote” myself to something as the word “discipline” definitely triggers me and brings up shame if I don’t do things perfectly……like being behind in the program!!
I am dedicating myself these next weeks to accepting myself right where I am and am not. I am devoted and dedicated to increasing my JEM practices with more consistency!
I want to bring JOY to the program and BE MYSELF!!
I define myself as Robin JoySpirit!!! Truly embodying my sovereignty through graceful fierce empowerment!!!
Proud to be a part of this tribe with all these amazing women!! Thank you Saida E. Desilets for creating this and taking a fierce stand for women!
I LOVE THIS Robin! As I said on the call, we are right where we need to be.
Posting my homework from the Welcome video and Call #1.
Welcome video:
I am bringing my curiosity to the program.
I want some time just for me and my pleasure out of this program. I’ve had many family responsibilities the last 3 – 4 years and now is the time for me.
My fears: That responsibilities will overtake my life and/or my body will once again refuse my egg. That I will get frustrated and abandon the course only to return to it much later.
My doubts: That I will be able to stick to the program.
I am dedicating my journey to me and my growth and pleasure.
For Call #1
I define myself as a woman who wants more pleasure and life out of life! It’s my turn now.
Yes Murrianna! I love this!!
I want to share a couple of successes: I played very gently, in relaxed arousal way, with touching places in my yoni, and she gave me a most pleasurable ambrosia event. I get it that if I approach her with total gentleness and respect, she reveals her pleasurable secrets to me. I am still very confused about my anatomy in my vagina, and wonder why I am the way I am, ( I didn’t grow up learning that some women’s bodies want to release ambrosia a lot of the time), and the swelling internally, that’s connected with that, seems odd. However, I’m just letting my yoni educate me on myself, and I am considering to possibly book a discovery session with Debra Wickman, in the future, to put my confusion to rest.
With studying for licensing exams, house problems. and my partner’s and my challenging health problems, it’s been really hard to stay connected with my libido. The last thing I wanted to do, the other day, is something pleasurable because I was totally out of touch with my body. But internally I heard Saida say, that pleasure is essential and it will grow your telomeres! Well, so I did the warm up routine, which I love, and I felt immediately better, and I also got enough in touch with myself to have an idea for our connecting ritual, in the evening. My partner had just had skin surgery and was not feeling well, but I invited us to nibble each other’s ears and gently kiss all over the face and neck. We both felt so much better, afterward, and I could just see those telomeres growing!
Oh Velvet!!! AMAZING SUCCESS!!!!! I love this share! Congrats!
Star Langford
June 11, 2017 @ 11:22 PM.
Hello Saida & Ladies,
My apology.for just now, sharing a few thoughts with you, I was caught up in the fullness of the infinite possibilities I plan to create, ” Living Life According to my Terms “.. I am in profound appreciation for your loving kindness and support. Saida, I love your, love mediation I listen to it as I drift off to sleep each night. A quote a professor shared while attending the university as follows; ” No one cares how much you know, until they know how much you Care, this perfectly exemplifies your heart, and compassionate nature. Star
Oh Star! I’m so happy you wrote! I was wondering when I’d hear from you 🙂 Yes. Now there are NO LIMITS for you.
I am grateful, Saida having “met” you … You have opened a 360 degree horizon to a life of pleasure… I will explore this great landscape … Honoring your commitment … respecting mine…. Trying my best to stay in balance and make courageous choices… letting the slowest part lead the path… knowing time is not an issue.
Thank you <3
I’m here Ingrid, and so delighted to support you on this journey!
I’m discovering my yoni in the mirror. I’m now looking at her and discovering her more intimately that way. It sounds so simple, but the other day I actually so the opening of the yoni, saying to her, ah, there you are, I see you clearly. Before, I always was confused, because there seemed to be so much “other stuff” there. I have a feeling of clarity now, knowing what my opening looks like.
I’m also working on sensing my three centers of head, heart, and yoni. My yoni seems very grounded and centered, I’m discovering, and very complementary to my jumpy mind. But I started to wonder about a fourth one: my gut. I wonder about it’s voice.
I enjoyed Saida’s facilitation of “Baby Wild Woman”. The pain of being shamed when we are in our natural wildness! I too had and still sometimes have a tendency to give other people’s voice power and then collapse in pain, forgetting that I can check in whether what they are saying is true for me. I’m deeply inspired by Saida’s anecdotes from her own life where she chose not to go to the victim position.
Yes Velvet… I’m so happy to hear about your exploration!!! Your gut… it’s interesting because if it’s off, all of us is off.
I’m experiencing one of the hardest times in my life, including tough health issues which I am curing from within. It’s been hard to stay in touch with my libido, and yet, I agree, choosing a life style of pleasure is essential, even now. I’m learning, through the nervous system “panic attacks” I’m having, to go to the core, in a deep commitment to myself on all levels. There is no panic in my essence. The JEM practice, especially working with the Jade Egg, the warm-up, sex reflex practice, ovarian breathing, and others, are so helpful. The more I do them, the more they make sense. I feel I’m in a phase where all I can do is focus on transformation and healing and the challenges in front of me. So the calls for facing my fears, for going for what I love, and shining in the world, reach me in the depth of where I am, right now. I’m shining in the deep and dark, transforming despair into courage.
Oh sweet Velvet, I FEEL YOU!!! And I’m right here and I’m not going anywhere. I’ve been there too… it can be so scary, so painful, so awful… but the journey back to self is soooooo worth it!
Hi Saida… Hi everybody,
I just listened to live call 5… I am still sipping my finger… enjoying the freedom not to be goal oriented…Realizing how much I have been goal oriented (also) while having sex… actually very much for my husband, worried about giving him what I imagined he expected… Putting myself ( and my yoni) in the center is changing our contact… easy and slowly… without words… 🙂
I love how you open the jade egg practice to be a lifestyle… more than a practice…
Thank you <3
I love this Ingrid!
Yes, and thank you for your answer Saida <3
I would have liked to have a discussion "world wide" on f.b … I am a medical anthropologist and find it amazing how different we women unfold our sexual sovereignty depending on where we live… birth controlling is an important part of it…
Oh Ingrid! I love this!! Let’s talk more for sure!!
When you and Debra Wickman in live call 4 mention birth control you mean contraceptive pills I guess ? I … and most women I know (Denmark & France) have taken them for decades 😨 Could you indicate a direction (book or homepage) to learn about the JEM community’s alternatives ?
I have some severe scar tissue on my perineum from birth giving … your Somatic awareness meditations (hands on) and massaging are so great … As you say… we learn every day through out life so no regrets 😊
Sweet Ingrid, I answered in the FB group about this. If you love the pill and it works for your body, use it. It’s just not a great option for everyone. 🙂
So, I’m asking my yoni about her letting the egg come out often soon after I get up after practice. Today, observing, it felt like I might be bearing down when walking. I relaxed something inside, and the egg seemed to stay in a little longer. I will keep inquiring. I’m also wondering, if disempowerment could be an issue here. I don’t really think so, but I have a history of that. And of course, I could have weak muscles, but I know they are getting stronger and more encouraged, embodied, and confident. I can feel it.e
On another note: great progress in sex with partner around expressing my needs without shame and getting them met without shame. My partner is sensitive and supportive throughout this whole transformational journey. My yoni is telling me to experiment a lot with ambrosia. I love it, when it happens, and I am never forcing it. I don’t feel that much sexual pleasure sensations with it, (maybe yet??), but it feels deeply satisfying, each time, and I feel a foot taller, growing more into my true feminine Self. So many mysteries to discover, and I really get it to not worry about what it is, each time. It’s different, each time, and I just have to be present for the experience.
Oh Velvet… I sooooo love reading your words of your unfolding journey.
Hi Saida… hi everyone 🙂
When you (in week four) invite us to discover the pelvic floor is it best to sit or lay down doing the small exercises ? I thought I new the pelvic floor but I didn’t 🙂
Thank you !
Ingrid! No worries, there’s always so much to learn about our bodies 🙂 You can explore in either position.
Feeling really grateful for upgrading to the Live version this year! I’ve re-listened to calls 1 and 2 this weekend, and looking forward to re-listening to call 3 when it’s posted. So much good extra stuff in these calls!
Oh yes!!! I’m soooo happy to have you on the LIVE calls Pam!
I have a question about the pelvic floor muscles. Most of the time, the egg comes out the minute I stand up. I’m not sure whether I’m bearing down while standing or walking and needing to soften the upper pelvic muscles and strengthen the lower ones, or whether my muscles are just overall weak. I don’t quite sense what it is. How would I let go in the upper muscles in addition to strengthening the lower ones like you mentioned in the writing about obstacles? I do feel the sipping and those things.
Hi Velvet, let’s answer this on the LIVE call, this weekend! We have Dr. Debra Wickman, Ob-Gyn, also available to answer questions on this upcoming call.
Great.
Hi again Saida
I’ve just listened to the second live call… for the second time… Just got an email from JEM : Are you ready for your jade egg ?… 4. week opening today… I am still a seaweed in the ocean of life… counting staying it for an eternity… but yes… a seaweed with a jade egg… why not?
You are a life giving poet… expanding the images of pleasure including life itself is SO new to me… SO liberating !!!
And I have discovered my kidneys… Thanks to you… still searching for my ovaries… they seem far away 🙂
P.S L’appétit vient en mangeant they say in France… appetite comes while eating 🙂
LOL! True that!
Your ovaries are there… with time, you’ll build the conscious connection to them 🙂
Hi Saida and JEM ladies! I wanted to pop in my voice since I’ve listened to the replays of the 2 live calls and not been able to participate in real time (is this the right place for these comments?).
My dedication: To be more juicy and succulent in my body, mind and spirit—to live more juicy!
One of my takeaways from Call #2: cultivating erotic innocence by entering an experience as if it were the 1st and last time.
The slowest part of me is the same as the coaching question I have for you, Saida (you asked us to throw these out for call #3): my resistance to pleasure. I am addicted to productivity, to the forward push of “progress.” I want to feel that however I’m spending my time is moving towards something valuable, tangible, purposeful in life. Being direction-less is agonizing to me, and pleasure for the sake of pleasure feels frivolous (so spending time to learn to orgasm more and better falls into that category for me, and I don’t feel a strong desire to spend time that way). I get antsy with the time I’m spending doing the exercises, listening to videos, doing the calls, etc.—there’s a part of me that worries I’m wasting time, and I need to get on with more important things. It’s very challenging for me to get out of the adult mind and back into play. Btw: I’m a genius at making work out of play. Hope it’s ok to be completely honest here; no disrespect intended. So my question is how do I do to reconcile this resistance in me, or what do I do with it? Thanks for your support and advice, Saida.
Sweet Minx, no disrespect felt from your curiosity! I love it!! I am a VERY productive woman. I have about 5-7 projects on the go at once, but I also know and claim time for me EVERY DAY… this is actually what I believe is part of my success in the World… that I nourish my connection to myself and to life. So, WHAT are you dedicating your practice to? It’s got to make your heart SING with delight. Then use that EACH time you engage in the practice. Besides, if you keep pushing, you’ll send up sick or aging really quickly or burned out, etc because to keep DOING and never BEING is an illness of the WEST and it costs us our well-being.
Thank you for your response, Saida. Yes, this is a personal battle that goes on inside that robs me of joy in the everyday living. Thank you for suggesting I focus on what I’m dedicating my practice to; will do that!
Minx, you’re amazing! Your willingness to claim yourself is inspiring given the type of world we are conditioned to live in. It’s WORTH the investment of your time and energy.
After live call 2, (will have to listen to the first 1/2 hour once it’s downloaded), I felt freed up. I really am starting to expand and let go of my confusion around orgasm in intercourse. Last time my partner and I made love, I felt so free. Free of putting pressure on myself to have bigger, better orgasms with him. I have been growing on all fronts, in sex with my partner: having a voice in sex, being able to express what I need or want, listening to my yoni and getting guidance from her, and BIG TIME, letting go of shame, the belief that I shouldn’t bother him or disturb our flow. And so on. But I had been getting a bit stuck with the idea of what my orgasms are like in intercourse, tending to think they aren’t real ones. My yearning has always been to fulfill my sexual potential, and I’m getting it now, that I can hold the creative tension between this desire and where I am. I have had amazing openings in sex with my partner: new kinds of orgasms, more of them, ambrosia in intercourse, hearing the guidance of my yoni, which helped me leave my domesticated self behind… So now I feel cured of the self-doubt. I get it: cultivate fully the ongoing relationship with my own sensuality/sexuality, in a spirit of openness and curiosity, and bring the same kind of openness and curiosity to relating with my partner. It feels so freeing to let go of my nagging question which only contracts me. The idea that there are many ways to have orgasms is slowly sinking in. Slowly, I’m starting to accept myself just the way I am, powerful and beautiful just the way I am. It’s letting go of comparing, a game I played in the past, when I still felt deficient.
Velvet!!!! This is A M A Z I N G!!!!
Hello everybody 🙂 Hi Saida
I just listened to the (replay) of the second live call…. So much a live even though it is 6 days ago… Thank you <3
I think that what you are saying is true for sexual beings of both sexes… I don't think there is so big a difference, as we are socially conditioned to believe…
I wish that your teachings one day would reach the youngsters as well, the sex education is more about diseases than joy… (in Denmark and France as I know).
I love when you talk about in – no – sense… for what is there to understand ?!
And that closing a door is opening another…
That was my pearls for today… I will listen to it again.
I love this Ingrid, thank you!
Hi goddesses!
Hello from Mexico! I am dedicating this to my pleasure, my pleasure and my pleasure!!! Been raised in a family where pleasure equals sin, I must say I’ve deprived myself of the erotic sense of life. I want to embody pleasure and put myself as a priority in my life, rest, sleep and self-care are also major assignments! 🙂
Sweet Fatima! Welcome. Love your choices!
I’m here. I’m taking all that is shared in. My dedication is to keep committing to a life style of pleasure and expanding my capacity to pleasure. I liked you Saida talking about being open to all life in a sensuous way. I’m in a time of lots of stress, and my commitment is to not abandon my connection to life and pleasure (which I have done in the past, easily and often, when feeling overwhelmed, which I felt often). Growing my telomeres makes sense to me! I’m really grateful for all the support from you, Saida, and from the vulnerable sharing of all of you.
Yummmm…. Thank you Velvet, I really appreciate when I receive take-aways from you 🙂
I am excited and honored to be a part of the ongoing JEM community.
Love having you here Xell!
Hi Saida , last year i could download THE coaching calls to listen to them off line.. Is there a possibility for that this year? Otherwise maybe an audio version?
Thanks!
Xxx Christina
Hi Christina, I don’t think there is a way to download the videos. It’s a great suggestion. I would put this forward as an idea for my team. care@saidadesilets.com
Thank you Saida for al the beautiful live coaching sessions.. I listen to them regularly and they keep inspiring me. Also the calls from last year. I am looking forward to your new book, you mentioned it and I am sooooooo curious about it’s content 🙂
I’ve been practicing your guided meditations a lot, all of it, except the voice meditation. Still have to do that one..
I feel now a sort of deepening in my being.. My yoni is more happy but the vibrancy and enthusiasm seems now more inward. I have not yet experienced super shifts in orgasm experiences, but yes more subtleties and more foundational coming home to myself. Also layers peeling of, of dreams of getting something elsewhere, more aware of taking charge of myself. There is no real question it seems, just sharing this proces. I also noticed that touching myself was always so goal oriented. I had to have an orgasmic experience, which happened less and less if at all. Still takes some push to let that idea go and just be.
I remember you telling in last years coaching call about difference between gourmet restaurants and fast food and comparison with that to lovers. It feels that the availability of a lover that really matches becomes thinner, it feels a bit lonely sometimes. While my system becomes softer and more sensitive I sometimes do not know how to take all the impressions of life in. It’s overwhelming often. I have tools, like dancing, listening to music and the opportunity of living alone and being able to find silence here and digest. I also know that I said yes to life, and sensitivity, and experiencing all subtleties but it is not easy. There is sadness sometimes without a real reason. I also feel that all the work I do, I take the ancestral women with me and it feels super powerful. I guess at this moment I find myself walking in some kind of undefined space and this too will pass.
I feel deeply connected to this communty, sometimes sharing and sometimes just reading and taking in all other ladies sharings. Thank you, thank you so much!
Lots of love, Christina
Sweet Christina, thank you for your vulnerable share. Yes… it’s true, when we become more and more sovereign and gourmet, the pickings are slimmer… but then again, we can be our own best lover… so we don’t have to go without. AND… it only takes ONE. Happy you are staying connected to this amazing community.
Christina, did you get an answer from Maya about downloading the calls? I’d be curious to find out.
Hi Saida,
I have a bunch of practical questions. Things like: How do we determine tone and suppleness? If I can’t feel the egg in my vagina how can I tell if it’s actually moving, if I’m actually creating a new muscle memory? If I produce ambrosia but don’t ejaculate, what happens to the ambrosia? Can it create pressure in my bladder or elsewhere? Is that why I sometimes pee after a pleasure session (regardless of orgasming) whether alone or with a partner?
I have lots of questions around female ejaculation. It’s something I’ve felt like I’ve been on the edge of many times with a partner but I fall into that group of being afraid I’m just going to pee. I have been playing with this (on my own) over the last few weeks. I read something about relaxation in your book that made me think to experiment with that but I’m pretty sure I just peed as the liquid seemed to have a yellow tinge (although I had cleared my bladder – or so I thought – before starting to self-pleasure) to it. Even a bit of that smell at first but not after it dried. How can I tell if I’m going to pee or ejaculate? Is there a subtle difference in the … I’m not even sure what words to use to ask what I want to ask here … What is the difference in the sensation of peeing vs the sensation of ejaculating? Or what is the difference in the source of the sensation? Or the musculature? Or? Is it possible to ejaculate without any touching/stimulation? (I’m assuming yes from when you mentioned on the last call about ejaculating in response to a sunset.) Is it possible then to ejaculate from clitoral stimulation? Or from stimulation from any other single point on our bodies? I can see the possibility that you will say that ANYTHING is possible. Yes?
There are more questions around orgasm and stimulation (touch) vs no stimulation. Clitoral vs G-spot vs A-spot orgasms. Orgasming without climax. But again, I’m not always sure how to formulate the question. And the questions can also feel like they are black and white or trying to put something into a box where there is no black or white or box. And that’s not my intention.
I’ve seen questions from other women that you’ve suggested they bring to the call. I hope they do. Perhaps if there’s an opportunity today I will dive in with a question or two.
I love your questions Heather!
Tone & Suppleness: Tone is the ability to squeeze at will and have resilience (like a trampoline) which is difference from tightness, which has no flexibility. Suppleness is the ability to melt & relax.
Feeling egg: You won’t feel it since Jade warms to your body temperature, so this is why I encourage practicing with your finger inside of you so you develop the link between your awareness and body (somatic awareness).
What happens to the ambrosia: You would pee it out (and it gets reabsorbed by the glands, such as in the first waters).
Is that why I sometimes pee after a pleasure session (regardless of orgasming) whether alone or with a partner? YES.
How can I tell if I’m going to pee or ejaculate? Is there a subtle difference? Not really… in terms of physical function, fluid is moving from your urethra (but the 1st waters come from your skenes glands). However, it feels different in my body… in terms of pleasure.
Is it possible to ejaculate without any touching/stimulation? YES.
Is it possible then to ejaculate from clitoral stimulation? YES.
Or from stimulation from any other single point on our bodies? YES.
I would say let go of understanding all of this and let yourself explore from a state of erotic innocence.
Thank you Heather for all your questions. I’m now getting that possibly, when I’m suddenly feeling wet like I peed, any time of the day, when I didn’t have to pee, it may not be that I peed, but that it was ambrosia? I also often have to pee after love making. I also noticed that after I had an ambrosia session with myself, (or it flowed in love-making even, at times), that then for a long time after that, my pee is almost colorless, and not yellow. Something mysterious seems to be happening with my bladder, when ambrosia has flown. It feels like a clearing.
What do you do about the fear of the bed getting soaked. Should I always have towels under me, just in case??
Sweet Velvet! Yes! I have plenty of ‘bed protection’ things… you can even buy sheets that protect the bed for incontinence that are really nice and work super well (we have one that we put UNDER our sheet). Towels work well if you have several of them. We also use a Venus Mat 🙂
Thank you! This is helpful.
Hi Saida! I couldn’t follow the call yesterday because of internet. I just wanted to share with you that I’m gifting myself with a stay in the North of France (Lille), and enjoying with the practices, your videos, your tips, the readings, my yoni journal… and it feels so so good! I can spend some extra time each day to the practice cause I’m alone for some days before meeting my family and friends in Spain (where I’ll make sure I will have my space this time)
I feel how important has become the daily practice for me. It’s my love time, my love space and my play time!!! Spending time with this I feel I honor myself I consider it as a sign of respect.
Yesterday I wanted to ask you about the erotic edge yesterday but I’ve found one of your videos that has answered perfectly my question!! Thank you for all those videos. I’ve also watched “saying no with grace”, it’s so beautiful!
For our next call I would like to ask you about the differents movements that come with the jade egg practice. Is there any difference between squeezing in the way down and pushing down after pulling the egg?
I want to celebrate with you that my yoni accepts my finger and they play again :o) So I see progress in my practice!!! I continue building the connection with my egg.
I will leave the other comments in the week 6 section.
Kisses from Lille!
Mónica
Awesome Monica! Please do come forward with those Jade Egg questions ON the call (I may not recall them from here by then). Celebrating with you!
Hey ladies! I am leisurely catching up with the calls I’ve missed recently – I loved this one, thanks so much! xx
One thing – Saida, you mentioned the DIM supplement – did you provide a link/more info somewhere that you could point me to? I’m wondering if it might help as as soon as I ovulate, I feel my mood and energy drop more dramatically than it used to, and big headaches are likely just before my period…I support my liver in lots of other ways but something still feels slightly out of balance whatever I do. I’m 45, so there may be changes going on, and I just want to support my body and hormones in whatever way I can – my ears pricked up a bit when I heard you mention this in the call…Thanks xxx
Ah! Thanks for reminding me… I did not follow-through with that. There are many companies that make it, I work with someone who regulates how much I take (1 – 4 per day, depending). CLICK TO VIEW DIM ON AMAZON
Fab, thanks!
Hello!
I just wanted to say that for the next calls I will have more privacy to talk about myself deeply as I can do it when I write to you in the comments. But I also must confess that when I’m on the call and I pop up I’m so happy and at the same time it’s kind of difficult to express what goes deep inside in English that I cannot develop that much. I also have the feeling to steals other’s time to talk… I have been wondering if it’s another form of self-sabotage?!!
I said to you that I’m recharging my love batteries. For the that it’s very important cause I’ve been ignoring my own body as well as my sexual life for some years now. My relationship with my boyfriend is stuck too. We’re both closed to each other. I’m concious and working on it but he doesn’t realise. I’ve found that both of us don’t want to betray our parents so we’re in a childish pattern. One day in april I decided to recover my erotic life and fews days later I discover Saida’s program. Since then I feel like a flower in spring blossoming, I’m awakening my body, the sensations, my desire and cultivating love for me and I hope I’ll be charged enough soon to offer it to my boyfriend if he wants to receive it. I he doesn’t I hope I will love my self enough to cut the relationship.
After one month of practice my vagina feels also younger, more alive. She’s has been moving as I was walking due to the lack of tone!!! can you imagine??!! So I’m happy it’s not the case now.
And to finish I still keep present my dedication which is embodiment. I want to soften more, to melt open and leave my mental trust on my body and my heart. I do trust in me and I walk in that way. I’m happy that my will is much stronger than self-sabotage, so I’m taking pleasure everyday with the practice and all the program.
So I do want to share with you my vulnerability and if I feel that I’m not able to express all that I feel inside in live I will complete in the comments section ;o) I needed to say all that to you!
I’m so so happy to share this journey, this adventure with you!!! Thank you all!!! and thank you Saida to make it possible!! ok and now I will do my practice ;o)
PS: I’ve discover the sensations around the love muscle!!! ouaaaahhh!!!
Oh Monica! My heart dances with you!! Beautiful!!!! I love when you share on the calls, you express yourself very well, and trust me, if you were ‘taking too long’ etc, I would gently let you know 🙂
Saida, do you know if using the egg can trigger herpes outbreak? I contracted the virus 2 years ago, that relationship ended and I have not been in relationship since… A lot of related emotional pieces anger, sadness, fear that I have been been working with over these past 2 years, so that I stop fighting against what is and allow healing to occur. I recently went on an antiviral to supress the virus as I am in perimenopause and hormone fluctuations were triggering minor but constant outbreak, this was challening me both physically and emotionally. I also just started on a low does estrogen – my intent is that this will be short term use to support balance and soften symptoms. My hope is that once I am in a deeper and consistent practice with my egg that I will go off of all the pharmaceutical… The antiviral seemed to be working great until I used my egg, which also coincided with the start of the estrogen. I am aware of my deep frustration… (probably really anger) that this virus feels like such a huge roadblock and I don’t know how to navigate it. There is likely an element of self sabotage triggering the outbreak too.. Other than journaling… do you have any thoughts or suggestions around this?
Thanks for any feedback
Lakita
Yes, I do have some thoughts on this.
1: Nearly everyone has herpes (not everyone knows and not everyone expresses it)… comes out in cold sores, etc.
2: It is about RAGE normally with the OPPOSITE sex. So exploring that consciously can reveal what wants to be loved into wholeness.
3: Immune system. Keeping her strong. Doing what you can to keep your system strong and vibrant.
4: I’ve had students completely heal themselves of herpes, each had a different path. In general, it had to do with coming into right relationship with themselves and their body.
5: The Jade Egg won’t ‘trigger it’ per se, but the act of giving yourself loving attention may be part of the trigger. And yes, menopause and immune systems can be a challenge if your life-style hasn’t been one of self-care, etc.
6: Is there a way to LOVE yourself UNCONDITIONALLY? You are alive, you are beautiful (inside and out), you are a creative, feminine being with so much gift this world…
7: They say that it’s impossible to know WHERE we contract herpes from because so many people have it and don’t know… sometimes we have it for years and then it suddenly wakes up… so finding a way to release the person you hold responsible as well as releasing yourself from shame is part of this healing journey.
8: Keeping your oxygen levels up in your system is suppose to be good, using hydrogen peroxide to oxygenate the area is also suppose to help heal.
I don’t have a set recipe for healing this imbalance, but I do know that you coming forward in your vulnerability is courageous and part of healing this for yourself.
Hello Saida!
Amazing call today! I found it interesting that you said you had a breakdown before the call today, because when I first saw you on the replay I thought ‘she looks so radiant today!’ Glowing and gorgeous. Anyway, I just felt to say that. I feel sometimes emotional releases get me back in my body and do give me a glow. – sorry if that was not appropriate!!! 🙂
My question today is about ’emotional shutdowns’. In week two, you asked us about what emotional road bumps do we create for ourselves and then what signals can we give ourselves to remind ourself that we are intentionally dampening our joy or pleasure.
For me, identifying the shut downs was easy, but I was in need of some ideas or support around ‘signal’ for myself.
One emotional shut down I am currently experiencing is in my relalationship with my man. Sometimes, if we are playing around together – eg dancing in the kitchen, being silly or getting intimate, something happens in me, where I suddenly will start to pick a fight, or shut down on him, make a snide remark, withdraw the play or stop the fun.
I am much better now at seeing this happen and have the awareness that I do it, but I am still exploring why and also how I can support myself or give myself a signal that its all ok and to bring myself back to the moment.
Would you possibly have any support for me around this?
I have not been able to make any of the live calls at present so have been unable to ask this live, but I will be on the call this coming week, so if it would be better for me to speak to this live, I am super happy to do that.
Thank you so much for being amazing and embodied and an incredibly role model. So much gratitude for being a part of this course and to receive your time and energy.
x
Hi Erin, I thought I answered this, but I can’t find my answer, so I’m posting it again:
You are doing AMAZING! The first step to transforming a pattern is to NOTICE it. The next step is to do a pattern interrupt when it comes up again… what would be a NEW way for you to interrupt this pattern? I tend to give my man a heads-up when I discover a pattern so that he’s on my transformation team (meaning = not taking things personal when the trigger comes and getting curious and possibly even asking me some curious questions).
I wonder how to do this if you are not in relationship in an intimate way with someone. I have a gay male friend who can trigger me so much and then I feel its not right to ask him to hold space for me when he is not my intimate partner. Any thoughts on this?
Please clarify what you mean? You don’t feel it’s right to be honest about your needs with your friend?
Dear Saida, My whole feminine being is able to relax for the first time in my life as you are modeling what I imagined an integrated woman would be like … I am inspired to do the exercises and find my own true self as a WOMAN! Much love and gratitude to you, Giselle
Ah Giselle, thank you for your kind words… and for recognizing yourself in me.
Saida, I won’t be able to make the next call that’s on Saturday as I will be on a plane. I had a question though and was wondering if you could answer it on the call or here if you prefer.
My question is around owning our power and how we see ourselves. This question comes from an aha around one of the questions you asked in week one. From answering the question I realized I have this idea and belief that I am broken and that I need to fix or heal my sexuality/sensuality. Hearing the recording from last call you spoke about ownership of your power and you also spoke about the erotic field meditation and why it is good to do. You said to often we break ourselves up into parts…and the erotic field meditation retrains one to feel the totality of themselves. When I was writing about how I have viewed myself from the lens of woundology, I’m asking myself, Am I really broken or need healing in my sexuality? Or am I whole already, and just need to grow, expand and keep coming home to myself?( I hope this makes sense what it is I am asking) Does languanging matter? I know that there are places in myself that I want to expand and grow and open, but does that mean it’s broken? I’m not sure I believe this way that I have perceived myself. Can you speak about woundology, and if it is important how we language things? And how this relates to owning our power and the places we want ” to heal”.
I answered this in the call.
I’d like to share that I have all my life felt I was deficient and wounded as a woman. But starting with the practices, last year, quickly helped me get in touch with the Whole Woman in my yoni. She’s always been here, I just wasn’t connected to her for whatever reason. I am guessing that it has something to do with the amazing connection between the yoni and the brain. I just felt I had come HOME, once I started the practices. So, I would venture to say that you are not broken!
Oh yes!!! Velvet, this is so precious!
Hey beauties! Just watched the live replay and it was fab to see you all there – I was twinkling away with you all just watching the recording! Some great questions and explorations – I can def relate to handing over my power to a practice/teacher/tool/self concept, and have been consciously rediscovering my own truths and reclaiming my own experiences for a while – trusting my own body, my own self to show me the way rather than following something imposed from outside…it was scary at first when everything I thought was ‘real’ or ‘true’ started to dissolve and fall away – eek! What was I going to be left with?! But actually what has happened is what I really need, and who I really am, started to (re)emerge…liberating and mysterious and exciting! Looking forward to joining you all on Saturday…Love Corinnexxx
Love this Corrine!
I’m dedicating this experience to blossoming into and fully embodying my full, natural and wild self. So it is.
LOVE this Shannon!